Jill Friday – Quitting Like Prince Harry (LA 1657)
Jill Friday – Quitting Like Prince Harry (LA 1657)
Transcript:
Steven Jack Butala:
Steve and Jill here.
Jill K DeWit:
Hi.
Steven Jack Butala:
Welcome to the Land Academy Show, entertaining land investment talk. I’m Steven Jack Butala.
Jill K DeWit:
And I’m Jill DeWit broadcasting from the Valley of the Sun.
Steven Jack Butala:
Today, Jill and I talk about… Well, it’s Jill Friday, and she’s going to talk about quitting like Prince Harry.
Jill K DeWit:
It’s so funny. So as I started to say, I was reading an article on my phone the other day and I just had this disgusted look on my face. And this one says, “What? What’s going on? What’s got you so mad.” I’m like, “You got to hear this one.” And it’s Prince Harry promoting quitting. And I’ll tell you more because I have the article pulled up here. We went into a long discussion on… And you’ve heard him say this before, I’m going to quote you, “When is that okay?” So, we’re going to talk about when is that okay and then in these situations, it’s not okay.
Steven Jack Butala:
First, let’s take a question posted by one of our members on the landinvestors.com online community. It’s free and don’t forget to subscribe on the Land Academy YouTube Channel and comment on the shows you like.
Jill K DeWit:
Jessica wrote, “I just called a small city hall about a property and the mayor answered the phone.” This is awesome. This sounds like our office sometimes. I’m like, “Let me answer the phone. Let me answer the phone.” They’re like, “Is this Jill?” “Yeah.” He had a great conversation about a lot I just got a contract on. It’s residential but they really want more business. The four lane road it’s on gets 11,000-
Steven Jack Butala:
Excellent.
Jill K DeWit:
… traffic cars.
Steven Jack Butala:
Traffic count per day.
Jill K DeWit:
Per day. It’s pretty good, right?
Steven Jack Butala:
That’s great.
Jill K DeWit:
There’s a new Dollar General three lots away.
Steven Jack Butala:
Oh man.
Jill K DeWit:
I know nothing about commercial.
Steven Jack Butala:
Geeze.
Jill K DeWit:
Does anyone have any insight as to how to go about making the most of such an opportunity?
Steven Jack Butala:
Yes.
Jill K DeWit:
That’s hilarious.
Steven Jack Butala:
I have some insight.
Jill K DeWit:
I hope you have a [inaudible 00:02:06]. Per the mayor, “This is a great spot.” Per Mayor Joe, “This is where you want to be.”
Steven Jack Butala:
As long as you’re buying it right, and I mean really buying it right like we do here at Land Academy then I’ll… Call us Jessica, but I’m sure-
Jill K DeWit:
You got people.
Steven Jack Butala:
… But I’ll tell-
Jill K DeWit:
You know-
Steven Jack Butala:
I know how this goes in discord.
Jill K DeWit:
You got it.
Steven Jack Butala:
Somebody’s already-
Jill K DeWit:
You don’t need us.
Steven Jack Butala:
Yeah. Call us just if you need us. That’s what I mean.
Jill K DeWit:
Yeah. I’m sure you don’t.
Steven Jack Butala:
Today’s Jill Friday, quitting like Prince Harry. This is the meat of the show.
Jill K DeWit:
Okay. So, it’s Jill Friday. And so I promise this is not just British tabloid stuff, you’re going to see the value here, but it started with that and just makes me crack up. So the whole article was, it popped up in my thing, and it’s it says this was December 6th. It says, “Prince Harry encourages people to quit their job if it doesn’t bring joy,” what?
Steven Jack Butala:
Because he’s qualified to do that.
Jill K DeWit:
What, what, it’s just hilarious that you should work at jobs that you enjoy and that leaving a miserable career is really good for one’s mental health. And this is an interview he’s doing with Fast Company magazine. So this is all high level stuff. But I’m like, wonder if I was the one doing the interview. I’d be like, are you kidding me? This is hilarious. And, by the way, it talks about him, who he quit his own job as a senior member of the British Royal family. And that job resignations during the pandemic aren’t all bad. That’s his whole thing. And it’s in response to, he’s promoting his health focused startup called BetterUp. So that’s the thing. Many people around the world have been stuck in jobs that don’t bring them joy. Now they’re putting their mental health and happiness first. This is something to be celebrated. Okay. So I think this has two parts.
Steven Jack Butala:
Oh, there’s more than that.
Jill K DeWit:
Okay. That’s awesome. So, oh my goodness. Let me take a step back. Do I think you should be doing something that you’re really miserable, that your family’s suffering, your health is suffering. You’re not making money, it’s really, really not worth it. No, I don’t want you to do that, however, there’s a time you just have to kind of suck it up and you need to go to work and maybe work two jobs and one might be delivering Grubhub after your day job because you got commitments, you’re working on something, you’re working on braising money to move to a town you can’t afford, who knows? And you’re getting ahead. That’s where I’m like, there’re two ways. There’s two things… Go, you have something.
Steven Jack Butala:
This whole topic, very often, way more often than not, gets taken out of context.
Jill K DeWit:
True.
Steven Jack Butala:
It’s too easy to bark out a headline, “If you don’t like your job quit.” Or, “You should feel fulfilled.” Here’s the thing, it needs to be put into a context where you have a plan. And if you have a life partner, like Jill and I, then you put the plan together. Together you do it.
Jill K DeWit:
Mm-hmm (affirmative). And it might be hard.
Steven Jack Butala:
If you’re an individual, you do it yourself. And it’s hard. Yeah. And just what Jill said. And it might be years, decades, phases. Well, for these next four years I’m going to go to college and for the last two years of college I’m going to have an internship. And in the two years after I get out I know I’m going to be a working stiff for some big, huge company so I can get it on my resume so I can actually ultimately be happy.
Jill K DeWit:
Well, and by the way-
Steven Jack Butala:
Hold on a second, just one second-
Jill K DeWit:
Okay.
Steven Jack Butala:
… I can’t drive this home. I’ve been threatening to start an entire company on this exact topic. And it just really frustrates me that everything gets taken out of context without a plan.
Jill K DeWit:
Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Steven Jack Butala:
Everything’s very hand to mouth. The further we get into this, COVID, this new environment that we’re living in. And it’s all, “You need to be happy. You need to be satisfied and healthy.” No you don’t. You need to work for whatever you are going to eventually achieve or it’s just not meaningful.
Jill K DeWit:
I agree. Not every boss, teacher, job, work schedule, dreaming up is going to be perfect. You can’t survive. Can you imagine if I walk into, I get a new job, let’s just say I’m an attorney and I walk in, and I’m like, “Nah, I kind of don’t like that person. I don’t want to work on that case.” How long am I going to last?
Steven Jack Butala:
Not that moment.
Jill K DeWit:
Exactly.
Steven Jack Butala:
And if you don’t get pretty good kicked around for that figuratively, you don’t want to work there anyway.
Jill K DeWit:
Yeah.
Steven Jack Butala:
Because they’re not serious.
Jill K DeWit:
Right? So I’m a data person and we have deadlines. We have things we have to hit at the end of the year and I go, “Oh shucks, I got family commitments. This is a little too much. Can we please move the deadline to, I don’t know, end of January because that’s better for me?” That’s not going to work.
Steven Jack Butala:
What he should be promoting, or anybody who’s in this business, should be promoting a methodical, linear thinking type plan.
Jill K DeWit:
Right.
Steven Jack Butala:
I’d like to get married in between these ages. I’d like to potentially have children, if my partner’s into that, between this age and this age. I want to get college out of the way if that’s the route that I choose there, or whatever education path, trade, school education, you got to get that stuff done before you get into a real relationship and on and on. By the time six or eight years go by, regardless of how old you are, you can really hold your head up high and say, “I did all this stuff. I accomplished it and now it’s time to start getting some rewards.”
Jill K DeWit:
Yeah, because you worked at it, you earned it.
Steven Jack Butala:
Yes. You don’t get a reward at the beginning just because of who you are.
Jill K DeWit:
Well he did.
Steven Jack Butala:
Yeah. And so that leads me my final point.
Jill K DeWit:
Yeah?
Steven Jack Butala:
I’m not sure you want to be taking advice from somebody who has no credentials at all.
Jill K DeWit:
Yeah. I understand.
Steven Jack Butala:
You know the end of this guy’s story.
Jill K DeWit:
Oh we all know the end of the story.
Steven Jack Butala:
And the end of this story hasn’t happened yet.
Jill K DeWit:
That’s true.
Steven Jack Butala:
This is going to end and a fiery ball of tragedy and divorce and all kinds of stuff. Watch.
Jill K DeWit:
I’m not commenting on that.
Steven Jack Butala:
Watch.
Jill K DeWit:
I’m going to be Switzerland here and I’m going to be the coolness because I know a lot of people look up to them.
Steven Jack Butala:
Didn’t his grandmother’s dad get exiled to France or something or Belgium or something?
Jill K DeWit:
No, that was the uncle.
Steven Jack Butala:
So yeah, somebody else quit, and you know their story ended? Just like I described.
Jill K DeWit:
Yeah, because he married a divorcee.
Steven Jack Butala:
Yeah. That’s what this one did too.
Jill K DeWit:
And then her dad got the job. Right. So yeah.
Steven Jack Butala:
Then they moved to LA.
Jill K DeWit:
Didn’t you watch The Crown with me?
Steven Jack Butala:
No.
Jill K DeWit:
Just kidding.
Steven Jack Butala:
That’s the other thing. That’s another thing, who cares?
Jill K DeWit:
I know. Great. Let’s back up a moment. Back up a moment. The whole thing is about there’s a time and a place. You know what I want you to quit? I want you to quit when you’re so far down the path you sucked it up. You did your job. You paid your bills. You put your money away.
Steven Jack Butala:
Yay.
Jill K DeWit:
You accomplished your dream. If you’re like us, you’re your own investor and you’re, you’re making so much money now you don’t need that stinking job. Then you can walk in and quit like Prince Harry and say whatever you want to say. It’s not for my mental health, whatever it is, and do it. That’s when I want you to quit.
Steven Jack Butala:
That’s great way to really put this on perspective.
Jill K DeWit:
Thank you. That’s what it’s about.
Steven Jack Butala:
I agree with you Jill.
Jill K DeWit:
Well, happy you could join us today. Five days a week you can find us here on the Land Academy Show.
Steven Jack Butala:
Join us next week for another interesting episode. You are not alone in your real estate ambition.
Jill K DeWit:
10 people popped over to listen to that.
Steven Jack Butala:
I mean really, it just, it really, anybody can really identify with, “Wow, I don’t like this job.”
Jill K DeWit:
Yeah.
Steven Jack Butala:
And so no, you just don’t wake up one day and say, my job is not fulfilling me.
Jill K DeWit:
Every single person, every single person. I don’t care who you are or what you do. There’s the day that you’re like, “I just don’t want to go today.”
Steven Jack Butala:
Yeah.
Jill K DeWit:
“I love it, but gosh, I’m just tired,” or, “I have something I’d rather do,” or who knows?
Steven Jack Butala:
“This fatherhood thing, I just don’t feel fulfilled anymore.”
Jill K DeWit:
Oh, “I’m not showing up?” “You know what son? I quit.” Can you imagine? That’s even better. “I had no idea that teenagers are going to be this hard. I quit.”
Steven Jack Butala:
“This marriage that I got myself into. It’s just not the same anymore.”
Jill K DeWit:
It’s not? “I quit.”
Steven Jack Butala:
“It was more fun two years ago.”
Jill K DeWit:
Exactly.
Steven Jack Butala:
“I’m done.”
Jill K DeWit:
“I liked it better when we were dating, I quit.”
Steven Jack Butala:
Yeah. I’m going to quit like Prince Harry. In fact, I’m going to go date somebody else right now.
Jill K DeWit:
Oh my gosh. “Oh, you know what mom, I’m tired of your demands. Yeah. I quit.”
Steven Jack Butala:
“I don’t feel fulfilled as a teenager in this household.”
Jill K DeWit:
“You know what? It’s finals week. This schedule is not mentally good for me. I quit.”
Jill K DeWit:
This is great. Oh no. Okay. Can we, this is good.
Jill K DeWit:
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